Friends are really the family you choose! Being surrounded by people who support and love you, as well as make you laugh is one of the best parts of life. However, in this time of our life, things happen at different times for our friends, so it can be easy to feel jealous or not know how to support them. Here are some ways to support your friends genuinely even when you’re feeling left behind or jealous.
Write down dates
Interview dates, starting dates, and even testing dates are nerve-wracking for everyone. Write down the date or plug it into your phone. That way you can offer support or ask how it went. Remembering these dates can make your friend feel cared about, and hopefully boost their confidence!
Send a note
Instead of just a text, maybe send a sweet email complete with some encouraging GIFs or an empowering anthem for them to listen to on their way into the big event. If you’re able to, write out a sweet note of encouragement. (I try to do this for Matt whenever he has to test for his job). It takes a little advanced planning, but can mean so much!
Sometimes it can be hard to support your friend because of your situation. But no one’s life is linear, and everyone has to follow their own path. Being able to be genuinely happy for others makes you happier. My best friend has an amazing job where she gets to travel, and my fiance absolutely loves his job. In some of the darkest moments of my job hunt, it was hard to wonder “why not me?” or be jealous of them. But then I remembered how hard they worked, and all of the set-backs that they had to deal with as well. Jealousy is a normal feeling, but don’t let it consume you. You don’t know who looks at your life and asks “why not me?”
Celebrating the little and big things in life makes it more fun! Pop the bubbly, get some take out and celebrate your friends. Sometimes the occasion is having a killer day at work, or just that there is a bottle of bubbly (or whatever you drink) in your refrigerator.
What do you do to celebrate and support your friends? How do you deal with feelings or jealousy?