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Adulting + How to Genuinely Support Your Friends

Friends are really the family you choose! Being surrounded by people who support and love you, as well as make you laugh is one of the best parts of life. However, in this time of our life, things happen at different times for our friends, so it can be easy to feel jealous or not know how to support them. Here are some ways to support your friends genuinely even when you’re feeling left behind or jealous.


How to Support your friend

Write down dates

Interview dates, starting dates, and even testing dates are nerve-wracking for everyone. Write down the date or plug it into your phone. That way you can offer support or ask how it went. Remembering these dates can make your friend feel cared about, and hopefully boost their confidence!

Send a note

Instead of just a text, maybe send a sweet email complete with some encouraging GIFs or an empowering anthem for them to listen to on their way into the big event. If you’re able to, write out a sweet note of encouragement. (I try to do this for Matt whenever he has to test for his job). It takes a little advanced planning, but can mean so much!

Remember this

Sometimes it can be hard to support your friend because of your situation. But no one’s life is linear, and everyone has to follow their own path. Being able to be genuinely happy for others makes you happier. My best friend has an amazing job where she gets to travel, and my fiance absolutely loves his job. In some of the darkest moments of my job hunt, it was hard to wonder “why not me?” or be jealous of them. But then I remembered how hard they worked, and all of the set-backs that they had to deal with as well.  Jealousy is a normal feeling, but don’t let it consume you. You don’t know who looks at your life and asks “why not me?”


Celebrating the little and big things in life makes it more fun! Pop the bubbly, get some take out and celebrate your friends. Sometimes the occasion is having a killer day at work, or just that there is a bottle of bubbly (or whatever you drink) in your refrigerator.

What do you do to celebrate and support your friends? How do you deal with feelings or jealousy?



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  • Elly Leavitt

    I’m always down to celebrate anything so I love that you included that!

    • That has been the saving grace after graduating! I always pick up a bottle of bubbly or something sweet if we have even the tiniest thing to celebrate!

  • These are great tips! I always try to put a note in my calendar if a friend has something coming up. IT’s so important to show you care and celebrate with them!

    Rachel | The Confused Millennial

    • Thank you! I found that even something like that makes a big difference!

  • Greta Hollar

    Such important things! I try to put birthdays, anniversaries and kids birthdays on my calendar so I can call or send a card!

    Greta |

    • Thank you! We use Felt, which is an app where we can send like 3 cards a month. sometimes we just randomly send cards to make people’s day better!

  • mckenna bleu

    Love this post, great tips on how to show your appreciation! My friends are my everything!

    • Girlfriends really are the greatest! Thanks for reading!

  • YES! These tips are so intentional and so sweet. I love sending handwritten letters to my friends, especially if I know they’re in a tough season or are celebrating a fun life season!

    • Handwritten letters are my favorite, and I try to send them often!

  • I love these tips! Friends are such a big part of life so prioritizing friendships is super important!


    • It can get harder as we grow up, so I really try to put them at the top!

  • Love this! I love posts that are about lifting each other up and celebrating successes. It’s so refreshing!

    x Sarah

    • Thank you! I feel like we could all use this right now 🙂

  • Kristine Circenis

    I really enjoyed reading your post. I definitely think it’s important to acknowledge and support each other’s ups AND downs. I love your idea for sending out emails – for as simple as it may seem, it can definitely get overlooked in every day’s busy-ness.

    • Thank you! I love getting emails from my friend, refreshing change from what’s been going on lately!

  • Loved this post, Ashley. Most of my friends don’t live in my city anymore and I miss hanging out with them.

    • I do too, it’s so hard when your friends move away! So glad you like it!

  • I love this!!! The dates one is so true.

    • Thank you! I’m forgetful so that one has been the best!

  • YES! Agree with everything!

  • I agree with everything!!! so true babe

  • Miss ALK

    Love the idea about writing down important dates in your friends’ lives- what a great way to show you care <3

    xoxo A

    • Thanks! I can be forgetful so this has made me feel better about remembering my friends important dates!