Wedding dress shopping has been the highlight of the wedding planning process other than getting engaged of course. I spent the day with amazing women in my life, picking the outfit that I get to marry my best friend in!
Picking Your Party
This is compilation of what I’ve read and what I experienced. Here are some things to think about.
- Important people from around you: This could be your mom, sisters and maid of honors. I know that people talk about doing this for years, so who ever you have been picturing at your dress important you should invite.
- Bridesmaids: Don’t feel like you have to ask all of your bridesmaids to be there, especially if you have a lot. But if you want them there go ahead!
- Grandmothers, aunts & cousins: If you are close with these family members or have a really close relationship with certain ones invite them! This is about who you want there.
- Future in-laws: Think about inviting your mother-in-law. Let her see you with the women you cherish most, and it also helps her get to know you better outside of her child! It’s a really special moment that you two can cherish together for awhile. The same goes with sisters if you partner has any! (Matt has all brothers so it wasn’t an option for me)
- Men: I know some girls really want their dad, or other male relative there even their fiance! This is all about what you want
- Keep in mind your bridal salon: Wherever you make appointments, keep in mind how big they are. I called ahead and asked if I could have more than 4, and they consented!
One Last Thought:
I was told that I should really only bring a few people, but I think the personalities of the people coming with you matter. Now my family and friends are opinionated but all of them know my style really well. They were all there for me and wanted me to find a dress that I felt beautiful in. You know your loved ones, so if there is one who is going to be a problem than maybe keep it small or be aware of it. Lots of differing opinions can be hard to manage. I felt very unsure trying on dresses and just wanted to feel beautiful. Bring people who will make you feel beautiful (because you ARE) and who will help you feel confident trying on dresses.
Preparing for Your Appointment
- Look at dresses: Pinterest, bridal magazines and local wedding dress websites. Save what you like and see what you don’t like. Sometimes know what you don’t want is just as important as knowing what you do want.
- Know you fits, materials and necklines: If you haven’t found exactly what you want, take some time and learn terminology for dresses. It’s not that hard, and will help out in the long run. This Buzzfeed article was so helpful, check it out.
- Have your venue: Your venue is more important than you think when it comes to choosing your dress. A full ball gown is not going to be easy to deal with on a beach, and a sheer number at a conservative church won’t fly either.
- Make an appointment: Don’t just show up at a salon, it goes so much more smoothly if your shop is ready for you! Also a lot of places are appointment only anyway.
What to Bring
- Shoes: If you want to bring heels, bring a pair with a height that you’re comfortable with. If you want to wear flats, sandals or tennis shoes bring something similar!
- Pretty little things: Bring nude underthings, and a strapless bra (trust me it makes the process way easier). Be mindful of your bridal attendant. You really really don’t need to wear a thong. If you’re planning on wearing shape wear, its a good idea to bring that along too.
- Inspiration: If you have physical pieces of inspiration bring that with you! It’ll help your bridal attendant figure out what you want!
This experience like I said was so great! My godmother, mom, sister, three of my bridesmaids, cousin, and mother-in-law were all along with me when I picked my dress. I actually wasn’t planning on doing finding my dress that day, I just wanted to try on some to get an idea.
One of my grandmothers picked out a dress for me, and then my mom, sister and two bridesmaids helped me find four others that I wanted to try on. My bridal attendant picked on out as well based on what I told her.
After trying on some dress (one of which was not my style normally but I liked) I settled on a dress just like one I had been pinning and earmarking for months (okay years.)
After crying a little after I was asked what Matt would think, I said yes to the dress. I tried in on like 3 times, once with a veil. It was magical and I can’t wait for my first dress fitting over Christmas! A little over a year until our wedding! EEK!!!
Have you ever been dress shopping for yourself or a loved one? What was your experience like? Anything I missed?